No More Suicides, Please!

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Today I read about a Las Vegas Metro police officer who committed suicide by asphyxiation on July 24, 2017. He was facing up to 45 years in prison for child pornography charges.

He was 24 when he was arrested and 25 when he took his life.

Last week it was an 81 year old registered sex offender who took his life by jumping from a bridge in Joliet, Illinois. The news didn’t say whether his registration status had anything to do with his suicide, only that he had just been to the police station that same day to register.

A few years ago it was an Assistant Deputy to a TN State Representative who took his own life when he was caught with child pornography.  If I recall correctly, the young man was in his 30’s.

How many suicides of registrants haven’t I read about? I’m certain there are others.

How many more is it going to take before politicians notice that the “registry” is a killer?

Politicians proclaim that “the registry keeps people safe!”

Well, tell that to the families of those registrants who took their own lives because they felt like they had no other options.  The registry sure as hell didn’t keep their loved ones safe now did it?

I don’t want to read about another registry related suicide.

I don’t want another person who is facing time on the registry to feel like taking their life is their only option.

Choose to Live! That’s a better option!

Choose to Live, Stand Up and Be Counted with the rest of us.

None of us knows what changes may come about tomorrow or next week or next year. Things can change, there’s plenty of people across the country that are working hard to end this madness we call the registry.

Suicide isn’t the answer.

No one wins with suicide. There’s always a lot of collateral damage. Collateral damage that, if you were in your right frame of mind, you would never want your family or friends to have to endure. Don’t even entertain thoughts of suicide.

Suicide in never the answer.

I’ve answered thousands of crisis calls in my career.  Suicide was not an option, ever.

First you choose to live and then you can move on from there. 

There are support lines, crisis centers, physicians, psychiatrists, hospitals, clergy, family, friends and 911. Call someone if you need help.

Don’t let the registry win.  The registry may beat us up, knock us out, throw us around.  We may get a bit battered and bruised. But don’t let it win.

If you feel like you are backed into a corner with no way out, pick up the phone and call someone.  Don’t let the registry bully you into taking your life.

The registry isn’t worth it.

Don’t let it define how you live or die. You are worth more and deserve better than that.

Choose to be a survivor and not a suicide. Please!





The opinions expressed within posts and comments are solely those of each author, and are not necessarily those of Women Against Registry.

9 comments for “No More Suicides, Please!

  1. Mimi
    August 21, 2017 at 7:02 pm

    My boss’s son committed suicide because of the registry and all that goes with it. As fate would have it my son is in federal prison now for CP possession however after the raid of the house he became so depressed by his possible fate and future that he was very close to suicide.
    Thankfully with the help of my boss I have been able to plan for how his life will be after prison. He will have a fully paid for house with acres of privacy- he just wants to be left alone. His car will be paid off – I’m keeping up the payments so his credit score stays in good standing. I’m hoping to start a business and give him a job. I want him to succeed despite what the prosecutor hoped for.
    Living well is the best revenge.

  2. lamarshall
    August 19, 2017 at 2:36 pm

    There are more than suicides. There are the attempts. There are the thoughts of suicide. There is the hopelessness of being unable to do anything, go anywhere, meet anyone new without someone finding out and assuming the worst. There is being rejected if you want to help out, because someone will freak out. There is being unable to go to church because there are Sunday School classes.
    I’ve seen people who were turned out of a hospital which they were admitted to after a suicide attempt, because they were doing better psychologically. But without a place to go to, they will probably try suicide again.
    I also want to see suicides end. How do we do that?

    • August 19, 2017 at 6:21 pm

      Since there are 861,837 men, women and children registrants across America and we estimate that impacts 2.5 to 3 million family members. If each of us committed to learning how to advocate and educate it would turn things around sooner than you think. If you are scared to bring up the subject with someone – do it anyway. If you are afraid to talk to your state legislators – face the fear and do it anyway. Just today we were at the Millions for Prisoners Human Rights Rally and March in St. Louis. I went and gave one gentleman who spoke at the rally after I did a WAR brochure and we began talking. He said he knows a young guy that was lied to by a girl and he is having to deal with the registry. I can’t tell you how many times I have started a conversation and got the….I have a family member, friend, etc that is on the registry. It is something that only the media talks about. Just to know there are people out hear willing to approach the subject and talk about how it creates a tidal wave.

    • kat
      August 20, 2017 at 8:24 am

      Re: How do we stop the suicides?

      We need to be willing to talk about how wrong the registry is. We need to stop letting politicians put a label on us, stop letting others define who we are, stop allowing society to “shame” us into being quiet. So, Talk. We need to be willing to advocate for ourselves and our families. If we don’t, no one else will. Talk to your family, friends, aquaintances, contact your state representatives, write letters to Washington. The more we talk, the louder our unified voices become and we Will be heard.
      And always remember, you are worthy of a good life, hard as it may be to make it at times, your life is worth living, so keep trying to make it the best you can despite the hardships. We’ll see an end to the registry, we just all have to work together to get it done.

  3. Michele
    August 18, 2017 at 10:31 pm

    I’ve think about suicide (every day) because of the registry and I’m not the one who has to register. I’m a family member but I get the hopelessnes of it. There’s no way out. Sex offenders and their families always get life sentences!

    • Mimi
      August 21, 2017 at 7:09 pm

      Michelle, I’ve been there and my journey isn’t over but I have a couple things going one is anger- my son was forced into admitting guilt to possessing CP. his fate would have been far worse if he tried to fight it.
      I’ve seen police and prosecutors lie.
      That said I have a strong determination to see my son succeed in life and my goal is for him to being financially comfortable and hold his head up proudly. Have a goal and make it happen. Where there’s will there’s a way.

  4. William black
    August 18, 2017 at 10:22 pm

    At times I think of suicide. I’ve on the registry six years now. I can definitely say I’ve made progress from where I was at in my life, i was arrested for cp I downloaded the files, i was living a life of depression and coping with a multitude of issues, I’ve always been one that was curious of information and what’s happening in the world not matter how crazy or weird. I went to far, I was in possession of the files I never shared them or told anyone of it I just had them. Now I’m on the registry, I have difficulty with relationships and keeping jobs, I made decision that ruined my life further than what it was. Not sure what to make of myself, not sure I want to live at times….

    • Mimi
      August 21, 2017 at 7:13 pm

      There’s no warnings anywhere on devices that can get internet like there are on packs of cigarettes. Morbid curiosity or ? The thought police are assuming certain things. Please don’t throw in the towel. I’m hoping at some point society will realize what madness this is.
      I wish you the best, you aren’t alone.

  5. JR M.
    August 18, 2017 at 10:05 pm

    Thank you for those nice words. It’s hard being a ‘freak’ of society.

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